What Is Love?

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Hi Shinies,

Today, I wanna talk about love. I will go through an overview, to clear what I strongly believe are the basics of love. This is like the first chapter of a series. In future posts I will expand the basics and create a journey with more advanced levels of awareness.

Let's put out there, that there are two type of love: conditional and unconditional. Majority of  humans on planet earth are stuck in conditional love, but love at it’s purest form is unconditional.

What do all this even mean?  

Conditional love is easy as it sounds, it means: “I love you if…”  

It goes down to: if you spend time with me, to if you behave in a certain way, to if you look in a  certain way, to if you make me feel in a certain way, et cetera. Usually, it shows by a push for change in the: behaviors, habits, mind set, belief system, preferences and needs of the person that is “loved”.  

Unconditional love it’s full acceptance of everything and everyone. A place of no judgment. It  means taking something or someone as part of yourself.  

Love is an emotion that lives in the heart space. It is the closest vibration to source and has  been spoken about for millennia in any way possible.  

It is also the most powerful vibration. An example? Has it ever happened to you, to fall in love  with someone? Do you remember the sensation that everything is possible and that state of  bliss? This is how powerful love can be. There are different degrees of love, but let's talk about it more in depth in another post.

This emotion, like all the emotions, is manufactured in the heart, then it is sent to the body and  through the vagus nerve, to the brain that initiates: behaviors, thoughts and actions.  

We will hear that the amygdala is the center of our emotional response. When, it’s actually  associated with fear and anger, and they are not emotions; they are tools that belong to the  survival instinct and used to push us to initiate one of the four survival responses: fight, flight,  freeze and fawn. 

They are made by a mix of hormones and electrical signals. But the emotions have their original source in the heart; this one sends a series of signals to the body and the brain simultaneously.

The heart chakra plays a role of sensorial center on perceiving and transmitting emotions  between our higher-self and our soul, and then between our soul and our physical body.  Emotions are produced in the heart, higher-heart and lower-heart chakras. The higher-heart and  lower-heart have a bigger dimension than the heart chakra; they overlap with the heart chakra, creating a Vesica Piscis in the middle of the heart Chakra.

The higher-heart chakra is located between the heart and the throat chakra. The lower-heart chakra is located between the heart  and the solar Plexus chakra; it is also where empathy and clear sentience comes from.  

The Vesica Piscis is located exactly where our physical heart is. Because this is not only a  place where the energies of these three center condense, these three chakras are shaping a  very powerful geometrical symbol, where manifestations get very strong and powerful.  

This is a symbol that has the power of creation, life, rebirth, renewal, purity, protection, balance,  fertility and divine feminine energy. It is also holding the power to unify the “havens” (higher chakras) and the earth (lower chakras).  

In our process of living and creating our life, there is a specific cycle that is taking place. It starts from our emotions; because we always have an emotion first, and based on these emotions, the brain strategies and organizes our actions to create an outcome in the outside world.  

Now, if you combine all these informations, our heart it is not only our tool to keep in contact  with our higher-Self but, it is also the essential jump-starter of every manifestation that we do, both, consciously and unconsciously, and also by keeping us in alignment with our soul mission, and greatest good.  

Now, let's look at our social system. We repress and judge emotions and we also know very little about our emotional system. This behavior creates a constant cycle of unprocessed emotions that make us stay in a perpetual survival response. Because, this has been done for an extended period of time we acclimatize with that, and, ultimately, it becomes our normal state even if, in reality, it is not. We literally forget what our normal state is.

We started to believe that survival responses are our emotions and who we are, and all the  emotions that are rising from our heart are filtered under the lens of a survival response, and the  experiences that have become an alteration of what actually happened. The brain processes information via separation. Ultimately, the separation between us and the others and the world at large is the actual signal that we give more power to our brain than what we should.  

I will make a practical example. Let’s take the following physical sensation: having butterflies in the stomach, sweaty hands, dryness in the throat and heart pounding in our chest. All these are  the same identical physical sensation of two very different emotions. One, is being excited, the second one is having a panic attack. Two very different interpretations of an experience, and  yet, what makes the difference is how the brain decides in which way we need to decode that experience.  

This means that our experiences are not lies, but are perspectives unconsciously chosen. They are very much real and need to be acknowledged and addressed to have a different vision of  the world and to heal what makes us feel unsafe and powerless in the first place, so that we can experience positivity in an experience. 

How is this connected to love? If we are constantly in survival mode, love at its highest  expression cannot be experienced, because it will also be filtered with a survival response and  here is where we have a conditional type of love.  

Love is not something we can achieve overnight. Monks meditate for their entire life to  understand and practice that level of love. Do we need to be all monks? Of course not, but we can work to reach a more optimal level in our day to day life taking one step at a time. Do you start to grasp where all the problems actually are here?  

Now, let's go back to conditional and unconditional love.  

We need to know what practically love is. Love is similar to the energy of the element of water. Like water, we need to know how to be in the flow, to be in, how I call it, radical acceptance, to  be in harmony and to practice togetherness and unity (which is different from oneness).

The flow

It is the behavior of any fluid and energy. It means by being in the flow, it is actually riding the stream of that flow. There are two different types of flow: the inner and outer flow.  

The outer-flow is the flow of the universe. This flow is based on the amalgamation of the  different energies that collide in a specific given moment. This energy comes down from planets  and satellite position, stars (especially the polarity shifting of our Sun and all its activities), asteroids in transit, celestial cycles (equinoxes and solstices, lunation, eclipses, et cetera), earth cycles (seasons, night and days, weeks, months, et cetera), act of balancing from Gaia (weather conditions, pole shifting, et cetera), activities in Gaia’s energy system, collective human events (wars, calamities, festivity, et cetera), collective human consciousness, cultural  human consciousness (every country has its own this is also present in the inner flow), lows that govern the universe, the universe desires et cetera. 

This flow of energy is not something we can change or do something about it for our benefit but, it is something that we need to have in mind to work on the resistances that we have before we hit the shifting of the flow and keep staying in alignment with ourselves.

Resistance is what stops us from being in the flow of the universe in the first place.  

The inner-flow is the alignment that we have within ourselves. What do I mean by that? We  came on this planet with a specific purpose, and I am not only talking about saving lives; I am  talking about any type of purpose. Call them missions, call them lessons, call them contracts,  but in and on themselves are purpose.  

So, if you are in resistance, again, we are not able to align with our purpose (also this statement is not 100% accurate because there is an advanced concept here that comes into place, but to simplify what for me are the basics I will talk about it more in future posts). 

The inner-flow is a state of alignment within ourselves. What I mean is: Life happens for you and everything and everyone within your matrix is a reflection of who you are. Therefore, it is the capacity to leverage all the tools and gifts that you've been given in this lifetime to live the highest path of your life.  

This means: being on purpose and deeply understanding and expressing your uniqueness and choosing the reality that you want to experience from a place of expansion, intuition, self reliance, self-love, sense of connections between everything and everyone, authenticity,  integrity and sovereignty.  

When you are in your inner-flow you can be in the outer-flow and ride that stream of energy. It gets easier the more you work on the limitations that keep you stuck.  

Visually, imagine a stream of water, and that stream is the outer-flow. The inner-flow can be: the rock in the middle of the stream or the leaf that has been carried by the stream. Now, the rock is  when we are not in alignment and we are stuck, therefore, unable to access the power of the stream and in a place of resistance towards it.  

In the long run that stream will corrode the rock, by destroying it, chipping away pieces, little by little.  

The leaf is the place of alignment where we are led exactly where we need to be. What we need  to do is float, and for doing so, we need to keep the state of alignment.  

Love like water flows. It is a stream that we receive from the universe and it is meant to be a  stream that goes out of our heart space, because water always moves and flows. It functions by exchange. Love, you receive it, but you also you need to give it. If we are in resistance like the rock, we are not flowing, because we close that stream to come in and/or out. Therefore, we close ourselves to everyone and everything in existence and to the energy of love. This brings us to the next topic.  

Acceptance  

Love, like water, has the property to embrace everything and everyone, doesn't know judgment. I want to give the same example that I heard that explains this concept perfectly.  

If you throw a rock in the water, the water doesn't push the rock away, but rather takes the rock in as part of itself, and water will adjust itself around the rock in a way that the rock becomes part of it.  

Love doesn't ask the other person or thing to change like the water didn't try to change the rock. They change because they have been touched by unconditional love that helps the person or the thing that is open to it to heal, and the change becomes a natural consequence of it. I said open to, because we are in a system where free will is important and to actualize any change you need to be open to it and ready.  

It is an acceptance that manifests in support, exactly like water that holds our weight when we are in it.

Can love be too much? It is subjective in potentiallity not but, everything comes down to our traumas and wounds. We may find love suffocating because we associate love in this way maybe because our mother was over-controlling to the point of limiting our experiences, or maybe we associate love to the necessity to fend for yourself because you were emotionally neglected as a child, et cetera.  

Sometimes, it’s the very thing that threatened our sense of individuality, an example is when after a while in a relationship some people experience a sense of losing themselves. Like they don't understand where they finish and the other person starts anymore. 

All these cases have been created from a conditional type of love that didn't allow the person to feel supported, respected and accepted in a healthy way.  

You will be triggered by being loved unconditionally at first. Because you won't find a match on the motives behind the action and behaviors. You will try to read through the lens of your experience but something will always seem off, giving you a sense of being disoriented because you don't know how to handle it.  

Harmony  

Love brings harmony between things. Thanks to the acceptance, it’s able to harmonize, bringing coherence to everything and everyone.  

Harmony has to start first within ourselves. Because we live in a mirroring reality. If we have a war happening inside, we will automatically manifest that in the world outside us.  

It is paramount that we start to work with all the parts of ourselves that are in dissonance  between each other and work towards bringing these parts on the same page without compromise, and no compromise means that every part needs to have exactly what they want at the same time.  

Only, and I say only, then you are able to create harmony within yourself. And always because we are in a mirroring reality (to know more about that I wrote an article on 12 of the universal laws that govern the universe) the harmony within will manifest in harmony in the outside world. 

Togetherness  

It is quite literally the convergence of all the aspects that we talked about before. What does it mean?  

I will make a pre-statement: we hear all the time in spirituality about going back to oneness, but the truth is that before reaching oneness we need to master togetherness. Oneness literally means one of something, a unit of something.

Togetherness is multiple things that are in harmony and operating in a love based dynamic.  

Do you remember when at the beginning I said that love is taking something or someone as part of yourself?  

This means you care for that thing or person and you take their best interest as part of your own best interest, therefore, you cannot hurt the other without hurting yourself. This will automatically end any type of zero sum game in favor of a win-win scenario and bringing things into harmony, this is the doorway to oneness. Because only when we harmonize we can experience that we are one.  

We cannot experience the state of oneness with all there is if we are struggling to connect,  accept and care for one of it’s parts. 

It is like saying regarding an apple pie, I love these two slices of the pie but not those two.  

Togetherness is about taking accountability on how your actions, words and emotions can  impact the world around you. In order to do that, you need to be open to see the world and accept the good, the bad and the ugly. This means, you open your heart to understand deeply how the others are, the way they are, feel what they feel, see in the way they see the world. It’s a place of pure empathy and consideration. Because everything is oneness we have by default the gift of empathy. The development is based on how much resistance you are in.  

Why is this important? Because what you do has an impact on the entire ecosystem. As we said everything is one, quantum physic call it quantum entanglement. Even if you don't see it, anything that happens to one of the parts of the whole; it spreads to the entire system. This is also the reason why is important to heal and be the better version of ourselves, by changing our vibration we will automatically change the word creating a domino effect.  

Now, you have a basic understanding of how many things are coming into place when we are talking about love, I will leave you with a question. 

What type of first domino do you want to be? 

Hugs, love and Light.